How to Find a Therapist
By Molly Horgan
Finding a therapist can feel daunting, especially if you’re feeling anxious or depressed. Below are some tips and resources to help you with the process. I’ve experienced the benefit of working with wonderful therapists, so I believe the search is worth it.
Explore Your Options
It can be helpful to consult several therapists to get a feel for what resonates with you. Most therapists offer free consultations. The calls let you get a feel for their approach and whether you might work well together.
The Importance of the Therapeutic Relationship
Research shows that the most important factor in therapy is the relationship between the client and therapist. It can feel overwhelming to determine which therapy modality will resonate with you (e.g., psychodynamic, CBT, EMDR). Most therapists are trained in several modalities, and each one has its benefits. Ultimately, what matters most is how comfortable you feel in the therapeutic relationship.
If you want to learn about the modalities, here is a great place to start.
Questions to Ask Yourself
As you speak with a therapist, consider these questions:
Did I feel a sense of trust and rapport with them?
Can I envision myself opening up to them over time?
Does the person make me feel heard and understood?
How does my gut feel about this therapist? Am I excited to work with them?
Do they give me hope for positive change in my life?
Listen to Your Instincts
If you start working with someone and it doesn’t feel right, share that feedback with them. A good therapist will welcome your honesty and can work with you to adjust their approach or help connect you with someone who might be a better fit. Remember, therapy is about you and what works best for your needs.
Referral Websites
Below are directories that are great places start your search.